Dating for ugly girls
I came along, read her profile and out of everything she mentioned, I decided to pick on that and use it as “ammo”to start a conversation. Much to her surprise, it was a comment in favour of something she wrote on her profile which caught my eye—rather than putting it in the message box, I put it in the title to grab her attention, and up till this day, I have kept it.It wasn’t the most interesting thing on her profile—that’d be quite sad. You may have similar interested, a compatible personality—you could be everything they are looking for, however even that may not be enough for some people.But, it was something I found she had an emotional attachment and connection to that would be a great conversation starter. My advice: It’s not worth worrying or caring about. Never put your eggs in one basket, expecting a response from the person who seems like a perfect match for you.When you embark with online dating, you shouldn’t just expect rejection—you must embrace it and become its friend.Rather than saying Long story short, she was receiving a lot of messages from men who expressed their disdain at her choice for wanting to identify as a feminist.It got to the point that she had to state explicitly on her profile: The messages never stopped. She seemed compelled to find out what vitriol I had spouted.Ok Cupid found that when some men think a woman is ugly, other men are more likely to message them.
This stark increase in interest occurs in both genders, but it is even more prevalent in men. I’m not sharing this story to bash those who are attracted to money or call them out as gold diggers; the point I’m stressing is that your profile shouldn’t include components that will attract the wrong crowd.
We men love to complain about how women have extraordinarily high standards when looking for a mate—however, we fail to look a little bit deeper at why this is the case.
While women may get an ego boost when they receive 30-100 messages in any given week, nobody really wishes to have that much admin to sift through.
During my early days into the world of online dating, I did an experiment. That’s like having a hole in your pocket which continues to leak money right to your door step.
Keeping everything else equal, I wanted to confirm whether there was a correlation with income and the number of responses I received. Just digging deep into some code, whilst watching the latest episode of ‘Suits’. You shouldn’t be surprised if an unwanted visitor knocks on your door, or commits an act of theft in the night.